What a Muslim husband should be like
No one ever thinks about the characteristics of a Muslim husband. It is always what a wife should do…the list never ends, cooking, cleaning washing…you name it she’s doing it. So what about the brothers? Our beloved Prophet
was not lazy so why are
the men of this Ummah?What a
Muslim husband should be like
1. Dress up for
your wife, look clean and smell good. When was the last time you went shopping
for designer pyjamas? Just like the husband wants his wife to look nice for him,
she also wants her husband to dress up for her too. Remember that the
Prophet would always start with Miswak when
returning home and always loved the sweetest smells.
2. Use the best
names for your wife. Call your wife by the most beloved names to her, and avoid
using names that hurt their feelings.
3. Don’t treat her
like a fly. We never think about a fly in our daily lives until it ‘bugs’ us.
Similarly, a wife will do well all day -which brings no attention from the
husband - until she does something to ‘bug’ him. Don’t treat her like this;
recognize all the good that she does and focus on that.
4. If you see wrong
from your wife, try being silent and do not comment! This is one of the ways the
Prophet used when he would see something
inappropriate from his wives (R.A). It’s a technique that few Muslim men have
mastered.
5. Smile at your
wife whenever you see her and embrace her often. Smiling is Sadaqah and your
wife is not exempt from the Muslim Ummah. Imagine life with her constantly
seeing you smiling. Remember also those Ahadith when the Prophet would kiss his wife before leaving
for Salaah, even when he was fasting.
6. Thank her for
all that she does for you. Then thank her again! Take for example a dinner at
your house. She makes the food, cleans the home, and a dozen other tasks to
prepare. And sometimes the only acknowledgement she receives is that there
needed to be more salt in the soup. Don’t let that be; thank her!
7. Ask her to write
down the last ten things you did for her that made her happy. Then go and do
them again. It may be hard to recognize what gives your wife pleasure. You don’t
have to play a guessing game, ask her and work on repeating those times in your
life.
8. Don’t belittle
her desires. Comfort her. Sometimes the men may look down upon the requests of
their wives. The Prophet set the example for us in an
incident when Safiyyah (RA) was crying because, as she said, he had put her on a
slow camel. He wiped her tears, comforted her, and brought her the camel.
9. Be humorous and
play games with your wife. Look at how the Prophet would race with his wife Aisha
(R.A) in the desert. When was the last time we did something like
that?
10. Always remember
the words of Allah’s Messenger : ‘The best of you are those who
treat their families the best. And I am the best amongst you to my family.” Try
to be the best!
In conclusion:
Never forget to make Dua to Allah Ta’ala to make your marriage successful. And
Allah Ta’ala knows best!